10 characteristics of the mediator personality type (INFP)
Clinically reviewed by Dr. Chris Mosunic, PhD, RD, MBA
Learn what the mediator (INFP) personality type is, including what it stands for. Plus 10 characteristics of this type, how to interact with them, and best careers for an INFP.
We all know someone who sees the world in a unique and thoughtful way. They care deeply, dream big, and always look for meaning in life. Oftentimes, they’re thinkers and tend to be more reserved. And being extroverted? They don’t know her.
According to the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), these traits are often associated with the INFP personality type — introverted, intuitive, feeling, and prospecting.
But what really makes an INFP special and unique? Let’s explore what the INFP personality type means, their key traits, and how they interact with others. Whether you’re an INFP yourself or just want to understand other people better, this guide will help you see what makes mediators such thoughtful and inspiring people.
What is the mediator (INFP) personality type?
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) lists 16 personality types, including the mediator (INFP). People with this personality are thoughtful, creative, and deeply caring. They see life as a journey of self-discovery and want to live in a way that stays true to their values.
INFPs aren’t usually the loudest in the room, but they have big ideas and strong values. They enjoy spending time alone, thinking about their dreams, and expressing themselves creatively. They also care deeply about their relationships and want to interact with people on a meaningful level. Some may also be incredibly sensitive and empathetic in nature.
One of the most important things to know about INFPs is that they value authenticity. They want to be themselves, and they encourage others to do the same. They may not always follow the crowd, but they believe in standing up for what they believe in, even when it’s difficult.
What are the Myers-Briggs Type Indicators?
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is a personality assessment tool that categorizes people into 16 different personality types, according to their preferences in four areas:
Introversion vs. extroversion
Intuition vs. sensing
Feeling vs. thinking
Judging vs. perceiving
The MBTI was developed by Isabel Briggs Myers and Katharine Cook Briggs, based on Carl Jung's theory of psychological types. It can help us understand our strengths, weaknesses, and tendencies and other people’s too. This can help improve personal development, career choices, and communication in both personal and professional relationships.
What does the INFP personality type stand for?
The INFP personality type is made up of four key traits: introverted, intuitive, feeling, and perceiving. Each of these traits plays a big role in shaping how INFPs see the world, make decisions, and interact with others.
Introverted (I): The quiet observer
INFPs are introverts, which means they feel most comfortable in quiet and peaceful settings. They enjoy spending time alone, thinking, daydreaming, or working on creative projects. Socializing can be fun for them, but it can also be draining, especially in large groups or loud environments. After social interactions, INFPs usually need time alone to recharge.
However, an INFP’s preference for alone time doesn’t mean they don’t care about people. In fact, INFPs value deep, meaningful relationships and love connecting with others on a personal level. They prefer one-on-one conversations over small talk and big social gatherings.
Intuitive (N): The dreamer
INFPs focus on possibilities, ideas, and emotions rather than just facts and details. They love to imagine, create, and explore deep meanings in life. Instead of just seeing things as they are, they ask, “What could this become?” or “What does this really mean?”
Because of this, INFPs often think about big-picture ideas and enjoy discussing topics like dreams, emotions, philosophy, and personal growth. They are drawn to stories, symbolism, and creativity, which is why many INFPs are passionate about art, writing, music, or other forms of self-expression.
Feeling (F): The heart-centered decision-maker
INFPs make choices based on their emotions and values rather than just logic. If something doesn’t feel right, they are unlikely to go along with it. They care deeply about fairness, kindness, and doing what feels meaningful.
This strong emotional awareness makes them compassionate and understanding, but it can also make them sensitive. They feel things deeply and may take criticism personally. However, their kind and caring nature often makes them great friends, partners, and supporters of others.
Perceiving (P): The flexible adventurer
INFPs like to go with the flow and keep their options open. Strict schedules or detailed plans aren’t for them.
This flexibility helps them adapt to new ideas and experiences, but it can also make it hard for them to stick to deadlines or make quick decisions. Sometimes, they struggle with choosing between different possibilities because they don’t want to feel trapped in one path.
10 characteristics of an INFP person
INFPs are known for their deep emotions, creativity, and strong sense of purpose. They’re often described as dreamers, healers, or idealists because they see the world in a unique and meaningful way. Below are some key characteristics that define the INFP personality. Is this you?
1. Empathetic and caring: INFPs have a huge heart and care deeply about others, and oftentimes are considered empaths. They can sense emotions easily and often feel what others are feeling. If a friend is sad, an INFP will not only notice but will also want to help and provide comfort. They are great listeners and often serve as a safe space for people to share their struggles.
2. Creative and imaginative: INFPs love to express themselves through writing, art, music, or storytelling. Their minds are filled with big ideas, deep emotions, and vivid dreams. They enjoy thinking about the “what ifs” of life and often create beautiful, unique worlds in their imagination.
3. Idealistic and values-driven: For an INFP, life is about living with purpose. They don’t just go through the motions — they want their actions to align with their values and beliefs. They stand up for what they think is right, even when it’s difficult. Because of this, they often feel drawn to helping others, supporting important causes, or creating meaningful work.
4. Deep thinkers: INFPs spend a lot of time inside their own minds (and are sometimes overthinkers). They ask big questions like, “What’s my purpose?” and “How can I make a difference?” They love exploring philosophy, psychology, and personal growth to better understand themselves and the world.
5. Emotionally sensitive: INFPs feel emotions deeply. This is a strength because it makes them kind and compassionate, but it can also be overwhelming. Harsh criticism, negativity, or conflict can be especially hard for them to handle. They may take things personally and need time to process their feelings before responding. (Do you struggle with this too? This guide can help.)
6. Open-minded and accepting: INFPs believe that everyone has their own path in life, and they try to see the good in people. They don’t judge others quickly and are accepting of different opinions, lifestyles, and ideas. Because of this, many people feel comfortable being themselves around an INFP.
7. Independent and self-motivated: INFPs like to follow their own path rather than stick to what others expect. They prefer to work alone or in their own way rather than follow strict rules or schedules. If they’re passionate about something, they will put in a lot of effort, even if no one is watching. Here’s how to find your passion in five simple steps.
8. Reluctant leaders but powerful influencers: INFPs don’t often seek leadership positions, but they inspire others through their ideas and actions. Their gentle nature and strong values make people respect them, even if they aren’t the loudest in the room. Instead of leading with authority, they lead with emotional intelligence and by being an example of kindness and integrity.
9. Resilient dreamers: Even when things get tough, INFPs hold onto their dreams. They may feel discouraged at times, but, deep down, they believe in a better future. Their optimism may be quiet, but it keeps them going, even when others doubt them. Wish you could be more like that? Try these 10 positive mindset tips.
10. Loyal and devoted in relationships: INFPs don’t take relationships lightly. Whether as a friend, partner, or family member, they’re loyal, caring, affectionate, and deeply invested in the people they love. They want deep, meaningful connections and will go out of their way to support and understand their loved ones.
How to interact with an INFP person: 10 tips to get along
Getting along with an INFP is all about understanding their deep emotions, respecting their space, and appreciating their creativity. They’re kind and thoughtful people who value meaningful connections and authenticity. If you want to build a strong relationship—whether as a friend, family member, or partner—here are some helpful tips.
1. Be authentic
INFPs can easily tell when someone is being fake. They value honesty and authenticity, so the best way to connect with them is to be your true self. (These 10 authenticity tips can help.) You don’t need to work hard or even try to impress them. Just be genuine and open about your thoughts and feelings.
2. Respect their need for space
INFPs are introverts, which means they need quiet time alone to recharge. If they seem distant or need time by themselves, it doesn’t mean they don’t like you. Spending quality time with themselves is how they process their emotions and energy. Give them space when they need it, and they’ll appreciate you even more.
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3. Show empathy and understanding
INFPs feel things very deeply, so they appreciate when others are kind, patient, and understanding. If they share something personal with you, listen without judgment. Let them know that their feelings are valid, and avoid dismissing their emotions as overly sensitive or dramatic.
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4. Engage in meaningful conversations
Small talk isn’t exciting for INFPs. They enjoy deep, thoughtful conversations about life, dreams, emotions, and personal growth. If you want to connect with an INFP, ask them about their passions, ideas, or what inspires them. They love discussing topics that spark their imagination and emotions. Follow these eight tips for starting more meaningful conversations.
5. Appreciate their creativity
Many INFPs express themselves through art. If they share something they’ve created, take a moment to appreciate it. A simple compliment on their creativity means a lot to them. They love when others see and value their artistic side and bringing out creativity in others!
6. Be patient with their decision-making
INFPs like to explore all possibilities before making a decision, especially when it’s something important. They don’t like feeling rushed, so give them time to think and process. If you’re making plans together, try to be flexible and open to their thought process.
7. Encourage their dreams and values
INFPs have big dreams and strong values, and they feel happiest when they’re working toward something meaningful. Encourage their passions (here are 50 things you can say), support their ideas, and remind them that their dreams matter. Knowing that someone believes in them gives them confidence and motivation.
8. Avoid unnecessary criticism
Because INFPs are sensitive, harsh criticism can feel personal. If you need to give feedback, do it gently and kindly. Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, try offering suggestions for how to better the situation in a supportive and constructive way. They will appreciate your honesty more if it comes from a place of care.
9. Create a safe and peaceful environment
INFPs don’t like conflict, drama, or negativity. They prefer calm, positive spaces where they can feel safe to be themselves. Try to create an atmosphere of trust and kindness, and avoid unnecessary arguments or harsh words.
10. Celebrate their individuality
Every INFP is unique, and they take pride in being different from the crowd. Appreciate their quirks, respect their personal style and ideas, and let them know that you love them just as they are. They feel happiest when they can be themselves without fear of judgment.
Mediator personality type (INFP) FAQs
What does INFP stand for?
INFP stands for introverted, intuitive, feeling, and perceiving. These four traits describe how INFPs interact with the world, process information, and make decisions.
Introverted (I): INFPs are more comfortable in quiet, peaceful environments. They enjoy spending time alone or with close friends rather than large groups.
Intuitive (N): They focus on big ideas and possibilities rather than just facts and details. They often think about the meaning behind things and love to explore deep topics.
Feeling (F): INFPs make decisions based on emotions and values rather than just logic. They care about how their choices affect others and want to do what feels right.
Perceiving (P): They prefer to be flexible and spontaneous rather than following strict plans. They like to keep their options open and go with the flow.
What are the best careers for INFP personality types?
INFPs do best in careers that allow them to express their creativity, stay true to their values, and make a difference in the world. They enjoy work that feels meaningful and fulfilling, rather than jobs that focus only on money or status.
Some of the best career paths for INFPs include:
Creative roles: Working as a writer, artist, musician, filmmaker, graphic designer, or photographer allows them to express their imagination and emotions.
Helping professions: INFPs love helping others and making the world a better place, so careers like a counselor, therapist, teacher, social worker, or nonprofit worker are great options.
Independent work: Many INFPs enjoy working on their own schedule and in their own creative space, which means they may enjoy being a freelancer, entrepreneur, or remote worker.
Spiritual or philosophical roles: INFPs often enjoy exploring deep ideas and guiding others toward personal growth, so roles like a life coach, philosopher, humanitarian, or clergy could work well for them.
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How do INFP’s think?
INFPs have a rich inner world filled with many thoughts, emotions, and ideas. They spend a lot of time reflecting on their feelings, imagining different possibilities, and thinking about the deeper meaning of life. They often look beyond the surface and ask big questions like, “What is my purpose?” or “How can I make a difference?”
Instead of focusing on facts or practical details, INFPs think in terms of patterns, emotions, and possibilities. They enjoy exploring creative ideas, whether through writing, music, or daydreaming. Their minds are constantly searching for meaning, and they often process their emotions by journaling, storytelling, or creating art.
However, this deep thinking can sometimes lead to overthinking or self-doubt. INFPs may replay conversations in their minds or struggle to make decisions because they want to be sure they’re making the right ones. Despite this, their ability to see beyond the obvious and think deeply about life makes them insightful and imaginative people.
What are the strengths and weaknesses of an INFP person?
INFPs possess a variety of strengths that make them compassionate, imaginative, and inspiring. However, they also face challenges related to their sensitivity and introspective nature.
Strengths
INFPs have many wonderful qualities that make them kind, creative, and inspiring people:
Empathy and compassion: INFPs deeply care about others and are always ready to listen and support their friends and loved ones.
Creativity: Whether through art, writing, music, or problem-solving, INFPs bring unique and imaginative ideas to life.
Strong values: They believe in doing what is right and will stand up for what they truly believe in.
Open-mindedness: INFPs respect different viewpoints and encourage people to be their true selves.
Deep thinkers: They reflect on life, emotions, and personal growth, always looking for ways to improve themselves and the world around them.
Weaknesses
Like everyone, INFPs also face challenges that can sometimes hold them back:
Overthinking: They can get stuck in their own thoughts, replaying past conversations or worrying about the future.
Conflict avoidance: INFPs dislike confrontation and may avoid addressing problems, even when it’s necessary.
Sensitivity to criticism: Harsh words or negative feedback can hurt them deeply, even if it wasn’t meant to be personal.
Difficulty making decisions: Because they like to explore all possibilities, they may struggle to settle on one choice.
Setting boundaries: INFPs care so much about others that they may put other people’s needs ahead of their own.
How do INFPs approach romantic relationships?
INFPs are romantic, loyal, and deeply emotional when it comes to relationships. They don’t take love lightly. Instead, they search for deep, meaningful connections with someone who understands them. They often dream of a storybook romance, where both partners truly see and accept each other for who they are.
When in love, INFPs are very caring and devoted. They enjoy getting to know their partner on a deep level and having long conversations. They express love in thoughtful ways, such as writing heartfelt letters, planning special surprises, or simply offering emotional support.
However, INFPs can also struggle in relationships. Their idealistic nature sometimes makes them expect perfection, which can lead to disappointment when reality doesn’t match their dreams. They may also avoid talking about problems or conflicts, fearing that it will hurt their connection.
The best relationships for INFPs are built on trust, emotional depth, and shared values. When they find a partner who respects their feelings, encourages their creativity, and understands their need for space, INFPs become loving, supportive, and deeply loyal companions.
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